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Hello I'm New here! Joined: 12 Apr 2012 Posts: 2

Hi, I'm new to this site but I want to share my experience and ask you some help. I'm still in touch with a real PRO scammer, almost get scammed by him ! I found him on GirlsDateForFree Dating site and we start sending emails. She's so pretty and her true love was so fast that it gets me thinking she could be fake !

I'm the perfect victim for scammers, I'm single and I'm really naive !
Now she tells me she don't have any Webcam, that's impossible in 2012 and on a dating site !
Here's my story (have fun reading !):

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From Amanda on Saturday:
Thanks for getting in touch with me ....i am a cool and shy girl ..I hate cheating and lieing and fighting ...my ex cheated on me so since then i have to be single and i love to meet someone that is honest,open minded,caring, romantic and i love to meet someone special ok...

I will love to meet someone cool and caring person trustworthy..honest and cool person that can take care of me and i will be with him till the rest of my life and i will be caring and lovely to him if you only he can promise not to cheat on me ok

My favorite physical activities:
Basketball, Dancing,swimming,listening to music, Jogging/Running

My favorite food(s):
American, Chinese/Dim Sum, Fast Food/Pizza, Japanese/Sushi

My favorite music:
Blues, Disco, Hard Rock & Metal, Jazz, Soul/R&B
Favorite Color & Flower
Blue Color... Rose Flower

I hate to be cheat and fighting and disobey .I love to meet good person and trustworthy honest ,caring good person and i will care for him and i will also do that ..

As at now i am in Nigeria writing my final year project so i will be back as soon as possible to the state so i will like to meet you in person ..

About my last relationship..
My ex boyfriend went to marry my best friend one day i was going to check on my ex boyfriend and i met both of them in my boyfriend's room and i fainted and i was rushed to the hospital that was so painful But i have to forget about it and start a new life.and this is one of my most embarrassing Moment.

Tell me more about yourself.
Amanda

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From Amanda on Monday:
How are you doing? Thanks for the email and am so much happy to hear from you again,Well i want you to know that i am not here to play game and i am truly looking for a serious relationship and i need someone i can spend the rest of my life with..I have been hurt alot before and i dont want to get hurt by anyone again and i hope you are not here to play game either?well it seems we both have something in common but lets get to know more about each other and lets see where it will leads too...bye for now and take care of yourself
Amanda

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Reply from me on Monday:
Hi Amanda,

I'm fine, a little tired but I'm okay, I think I work too hard !
Thank you for your pictures, I must tell you the truth, you are really a good looking girl !
I'm glad to see that you are still interested to get in touch with me !

I understand the pain you had being cheated, it happens to me also one time many years ago. It is so painfull to be cheated when you put all your trust in the person and loose all of it drastically, I understand you were rushed to the hospital. Me I found it while chatting with my ex, ex girlfriend, I was home and I was sitted on a chair so I did not fall ... but I know all the pain. I can't understand people cheating like this, when you are in couple with someone it's because you share everything with her (life, love, activities, life projects, family, body, etc.) and you don't want to share this with no one else !

I'm not the kind of guy cheating girls, I'm more the one who will protect them !

You are talking a lot about spending the rest of your life with someone. It's a dream that we all want to share but for me, I'm not sure it's a good thing to start a relation like this. I understand you are looking for something serious, share life projects and start new family, it's a dream that I share too. But I think we should all share life one day at a time, and if both persons are still happy with each other, they should stay togheter ! (why not !) I'm telling this to you because I saw couple still in love even after many years, but I saw couple that one person is unhappy with the other one and it's like being in jail. I also realized that for me when I was with my ex girlfriend. I loved her so much, what lead me to broke with her it's because she wasn't happy with me, and I don't want her to be unhappy. She was really sad (me too) for a couple of months, but that was the right decision, we are now more happy on each side beeing single than being togheter !

I hope that you will not be afraid about a relation could never last long with me, I must say that each story is different, and I want to start a new story with someone special !

Hope to see you soon !
Take care of yourself !

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From Amanda on Monday:
How are u doing i really appreciate ur message alot,I am so pleased to read your reply,it has warm my heart and I am hoping to get to always hear from you.I hope this will take us to the next level and we could build a relationship that will last forever.Distance between us does not bother me as I know we could meet,I liked your profile and all I read about it was awesome,it will be my pleasure to get to know more about you and I ..Just to let you know I'm in Nigeria and would want to know if you still care to continue with this
connection?this questions to you.....
What do you do for a living?
What do you seek for in a relationship?
What are the basic qualities you seek for in a lady?
What sort of relationship you seek for?
What interests you?
What do you do for fun?
Do you like public intimacy?
How long have you been single?
What's being single like?
How do you treat your woman?
why do you need a lady?
Can you love this lady?
What is love to you?
Would you hit your lady for any reasons?
I'll hopefully want to know what your consent is about these questions.
I want to get to know you and meet you.
Yours Amanda.

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Reply from me on Monday:
Me I'm fine ! I'm glad to know my message warmed your heart !
I know you are in Nigeria right now but you told me that you plan to get back to United States one day.
Do you know when you will be back in United States ? Will it be in Texas ?
Of course I care to continue get in touch with you, you seemed to be a honest girl and the more I read about you, the more I start to have trusting in you.
You asked me tons of questions, more personal questions, but that show me you are interested about me a lot !
I'm really honest and I have nothing to hide, so here's my answers:

What do you do for a living?
I work in electronics manufacturing, I'm programming embedded systems and I really love this job, I'm always learning, there's always new challenges !

What do you seek for in a relationship?
I want to share everything with someone special:
love, affection, tenderness, pleasure, my happyness, my sadness, my successes, my failures, activities and travels, projects, a house, children, etc.

What are the basic qualities you seek for in a lady?
I'm seeking for a honest, affectionate, independent, open minded lady. It will be nice if she's cooking Wink

What sort of relationship you seek for?
I'm seeking for a long terme relation based on getting real free because the more you let your lady free, the more happy she will be and the more strong the relation can be !
It is really important for me to be free to do some activities with friends or even alone.
Not beeing always with the lady because this would lead to be like being in jail.

What interests you?
I'm really passionate about electronics, computers and cars. I'm not mechanic too much but I understand more and more about engines and stuff.

What do you do for fun?
I like to train in gym, to play hockey cosom, canoing, kayak, hiking, camping, to have road trip, to travel, to play some video games (but not so often !)

Do you like public intimacy?
If you mean being kissed in public and touching each other, I'm not so embarassed, I'm okay with that (but not too much in front of my parents, they are kind of old school !)

How long have you been single?
Since 6 months.

What's being single like?
There are goods and cons.
Goods are: I'm now totally free, I can do whatever I want at anytime, I really enjoy my life more than before ! I buy whatever I want and I eat my favorite foods
Cons are: Basicallly, I can't have children alone, It's more difficult to plan having a house alone, sometimes I feel a little alone and I would love to have to someone to share my life with.

How do you treat your woman?
As far as I know, I always treat her good because having the chance to share life with a woman is so precious, I don't want to let this go ! I know I have some weakness, I have some difficulties to decode what a woman really want, and sometimes I can be in a bad mood (specially in the early morning) and this can affect my woman, but most of the time I should be happy and I try always focusing on good things in general.

why do you need a lady?
to share everything with her:
love, affection, tenderness, pleasure, my happyness, my sadness, my successes, my failures, activities and travels, projects, a house, children, etc.

Can you love this lady?
If I'm in love, of course I can love this lady, and doing the best I can to keep her happy and satisfied.

What is love to you?
Love is something really strong for me. I'm considering love like something precious to keep ! Love is sharing heart, sharing mind, sharing spirit and sharing body.

Would you hit your lady for any reasons?
No, never, I'm really not that king of guy. Women are precious, I don't know why some men are beating them.

That's my answers to your questions.
Can I ask you to answer to those questions about the man you are seeking too ?

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From Amanda on Tuesday:
What do you seek for in Relationship?What I am seeking is a man as laid out in Proverbs

A man who is strong (but not overbearing), loyal, respectful, kind and sweet. That carry himself like the king he is in all situations. That arouse my intellect as well as physical desires. Looking for a that somebody that I can share my entire self with. Somebody that is not afraid to be loved as well express love..I seek for a Serious and Long term relationship,Someone I can spend the rest of my Life with.

What type of relationship do you seek for?Well I will like to tell u that am a Sensitive Man,Am Honest,Kind,Caring, and Truthful...I seek for a true and Serious relationship that will last forever..You r so Handsome....I don't play games and I am looking for a serious relationship with marriage being the ultimate goal!

What interest you Most?Wow..I have God Interest, have interest in Kids. and also have interest with the man I Love with My Heart!!

What type of Guy are you Looking for?Seeking for a very honest and caring person

What do you do for a Living? not working yet.

What do you for fun?I Love reading,singing,Watching tv,going to beach,Sports,Swimming,Outdoors,Camping,and Fishing

Can you Love this Guy? Yeah Definitely I will Love Him till the end of my Life..

Would you hit your Guy with any Reasons?I will never Hit my Guy and I will never Hurt His Feelings. I will never Argue with Him. But work things out fine with each other and understand each other better.

Do you have a Kids?Nope I don't have a Kids But I wish to have some in the Future.

Do you want some Kids in the Future?Yeah

i will love oto read back from you and let me know what you feel about my answer..

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From me on Tuesday:
Hi Amanda,
I like your answers, I'm starting thinking that we should definitely meet each other, we have so many points in common !

Only one thing is strange.
You wrote: "I will like to tell u that am a Sensitive Man"
I hope that it's only a mistake, a typo !
You are not hiding anything to me, don't you ?

If you are really seeking for a serious long terme relationship, you must tell me the truth, you must win my trust.
Me I'm totally honest with you and I'm looking for a honest woman.

Do you know when you will be back in United States ? Will it be in Texas ?
If you are not sure when, you should tell me, I prefer a honest answer !

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From Amanda on Tuesday:
Before I met you,I was badly hurt from relationships that fell apart,I didn't wanna live no more I just wanted an end,I thought nothing could cure me,My heart would never mend.But getting happy at ur consistency and simplicity....in short i love the way u talk and i guess we could get to see as soon as i get back,i just want to be sure you are really serious about me,i am very scared about suffering another heart break because it really hurts alot and i believe you understand where i am coming from and where i am going to...one thing i want u to note is that i want you to be faithful because that is what can make things work out for us.I am alway committed to the man i give my love to ex boy friend does not know how to respond to True Love and that hurts allot,please and please if you are really serious about me because i don't want to look back and i dont ever regret ever falling In love with,i want you to be the last person i will ever fall in love with,one thing i just want you to do now is to take off your profile from the site and lets get serious with each other,....anyway am getting over the recent heart breaks that i have suffer.I have not been with any man for 3years since i broke up with my ex.I am giving you a chance to see how things will work and see if u will not treat me like my ex did ...I guess we could get to see when i get back home lets just keep intouch this way,one more thing i just need to tell you is that,will you always be there for me?will you support and finance my every day Life,its just a matter of thinking tell me what you feel about that. Am feeling u are something very new and i guess ur coming into my life will be a plus.I hope we'll never part,because I know a strait forward man will always treat His woman with love,care and Passions....I wrote your name in the sky, but the wind blew it away.I wrote your name in the sand, but the waves washed it away.I wrote your name in my heart, and forever it will stay,i promise i will always Love and Adore you if you are serious about me,my love for you will be like a golden chain that links our heart together,if you ever break the chain that means you break my heart,i believe you wont because i know you are serious about me....I really want to see u someday...i dont mind coming to canada to meet you oka but i want to see where it leads to..
With Love.
Amanda

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From me on Tuesday:
Dear Amanda,
I read your last message and I must give you an important advice.
Right now, you are talking too much with your heart, I mean, you let your heart leading your life too much !
It is a weekness to have your heart on your sleeve like this, that could lead you to been hurt again by anyone.
You must calm down your heart a little and think more with your head !
In everyday life, it is important to be in peace with our head (logic) and our heart (dream).
Every big life decision must be made with both mind (head) and heart.

Best exercice you should do is questionning yourself, ask questions to your heart, found your heart answers.
Then ask same questions in your mind (head), and found your head answers.
The ultimate goal is to have same answers from both your head and your heart.

Think about it, you can't promise to love someone for all life long.
I understand you wish to spend the rest of your life with someone, but you can't promise it !

Also, we don't know very well each other, we just exchange some emails since few days.
I'm glad to see your are romantic, I'm romantic too !
Let us time to know better each other, we can continue sending emails and pictures, and we could see each other with webcams shortly if you want !

Please, can you answer those simple questions:

You wrote: "I will like to tell u that am a Sensitive Man"
Is it a mistake ? You are not a man, don't you ?

Do you know when you will be back in United States ? Will it be in Texas ?
If you are not sure when, you should tell me, I prefer a honest answer !

Have a nice evening !

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From Amanda on Wednesday:
How are you doing? and thanks for the mail am glad to read from you, i want someone i will love for the rest of my life,, i am a woman of my word... i mad a mistake with the sensitive man okay babe... what is delaying here in Nigeria is my school leavening certificate and when i get it i will be glad to come and visit you in Canada.. tell me what else you care to know about me..

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From me on Wednesday:
Hi Amanda !

I'm glad to see that you still want to get in touch with me !
I was hoping to not hurting you with my advice.

To wear your heart on you sleeve is a real strenght to share with your true love but only when you will find him !
Untill you find the right man for you, you should avoid being using your heart too much to avoid being hurt again !

I'm not saying that I'm not the right man for you, I just don't know that much about you, so I can't say you are the right lady for me right now !
I don't want to hurt you !

You seem to be a lovely and very attractive woman !
I'm very interested to meet you !

In all my life, I shared my heart with only 2 girls, so I don't have many experience in relationship.
I must tell you that it's my very first time to get in touch with an english lady, I didn't even imagine that possibility !
I'm not afraid starting a new story with an english lady, I know that it may be harder to understand each other but I think that we should met and see what happen ! I think that we will be able to share life and everything if we truly fall in love !

Untill we met, I have some questions for you to know you better.

Can you tell me more about your family ?
Is your family lives in Texas ?
Do you have brothers/sisters ?
What's their ages ?
Yours,

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From Amanda on Wednesday:
Can you tell me more about your family ? i lost my parent in a car weark last 4years.. i have live with them for my whole life.. i love them so much and i wish i could be happy like i use to when i have them, that is why i want the right man to build a new family with that i can be happy..
Is your family lives in Texas ? i am not close to family but grandma told me most of them base in United Kingdom
Do you have brothers/sisters ? only child

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From Me on Wednesday:
Dear Amanda,

I'm sorry to learn that you lost your parent. It's very sad !
Now I think I understand why you leave Texas to live with your grandma in Nigeria.
It's always important to have a family, to live with someone truthful and caring.

Right now I have more time to write you a longer message and I spend this time writing to you because I think more and more about you, even at work I think about you !

In reply to your long message from your heart, if I fall in love with you, of course I will always be there for you ! I will always take care of the woman of my life !
Even if she gets sick, I will be there for her. Yes I will support her everyday life, when she will be sad, when she gets pain, when she has failures, etc.
For the finance, I will never leave the woman of my life in her financial problems, I will help her when she will need help.

The woman I want to spend my life with must find a work, any work, but it is important for her finance to work.
It is also important for her to work to start a new family.
When you will finally get your diploma in accounting, I think you plan to find a job in accounting, don't you ?

I have some questions for you, I'm sorry to ask you so many questions.
I need to know your answers to build my trust in you !

Did you met your ex boyfriend in Nigeria ?
Do you still have a home in Texas ? Is it your parent house ?
What get your attention on me on the dating site ?
Is it my location ? My age ? My picture ?

I'm sorry if my messages seem to be cold and professionnal, it's because I learned speaking english that way especially to work in english, I never had the chance to write flirt/love messages in english ! You truly get my attention and I truly want to meet you !

I am ready to start chating with you if you want too, I have a yahoo account !
We could use Yahoo Messenger !
Maybe we could see each other using Webcams !

During business days it will be hard to have a live conversation because of the time zone difference.
Maybe we can schedule an online date during next weekend !
Let me know what you think about it !

Hope to read about you soon !
Take care !

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From Amanda today:
Did you met your ex boyfriend in Nigeria ? nope in texas
Do you still have a home in Texas ? yeah i have a house
Is it your parent house ? yeah, inheritance
What get your attention on me on the dating site ? my mind just told me to mail you that you could be the rght man , you are the matches that i have when i open the site..

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From Me today:
Hi Amanda,
How are you today ?

Thank you for your answers, they are short but it's ok, maybe you were in a hurry to write me a message like me right now !

When you will finally get your diploma in accounting, I think you plan to find a job in accounting, don't you ?

I will appreciate to have a live conversation with you using Yahoo Messenger !
Maybe we could see each other using Webcams !
During business days it will be hard to have a live conversation because of the time zone difference.

Maybe we can schedule an online date during next weekend ?!?
Let me know what you think about it !

Take care !

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From Amanda Today:
Thank you very much for your reply i am so great full that you are so serious and i am here to let you know i am also serious hope you gonna take good proper care of me..because the way u talk is making me really wanna be with you so badly course life is so unpredictable. Changes always come along, in big or small ways. I don't know what happened that this sudden change has turned my world upside down. I don't know exactly what it is, it just hit me, but there is something really special about you and the email u just sent to me . That no other men on earth have done or say to me.Our love started over the net and everything seemed almost perfect then. We had never met but the love we felt was so big and true already, and could only become complete by meeting each other,hunny am very happy for all the love you have been given to me and i will always be there for you in all things in life you need my king. The very first day I'm going to met you in person, we are going to hold one other so tightly. we wont want to let any one go, and time will stood still. We had a perfect day and we knew it could only get better and better if we only stood by each other, held, kissed and hugged. After that moment we never went through a day without saying how much we love and need each other for the rest of our life,Being far away from you is killing me rite now, not sharing every day with you and not being able to hold you whenever I want, hurts so much but I know that at the end of all this pain I will find you... i am planning to get a job when am with my right man as a bank accountant.i dont have a webcam.
with love,
Amanda
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Any suggestions ?
Do you want her email address to play with her ?

Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21155

Welcome to the board and I'm glad you figured this out before she ruined your life. You are spot on this is a scammer but I don't know if you have used real information or false in contacting him. This is very important in the replies you will get from everyone here.

If this person has ANY real info on you drop him like a rock. If he has nothing on you, then play away. You could post him in Surplus and I'm sure myself or one of the others would love to toy with him,

Now that you have posted once, you should be able to sign up for a mentor and learn how to torture these people.

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Now she tells me she don't have any Webcam, that's impossible in 2012 and on a dating site !

I do take slight issue with this statement though. I have no cam nor will I have one. They are of no use to me.

EDIT: Is that a free site for men?

Hello I'm New here! Joined: 12 Apr 2012 Posts: 2

No, it's all 100% free for girls only, men have to pay.
There are tons of girls, it's free for them, but I would not recommand it because there so many fake profiles (the site randomly pics photo from facebook and send you pre-written sentences), I received many messages, I reply to them but I received no reply from those girls (that's why I can say there is many fake profiles !)

Maybe scammers love to subscribe as a girl since it's totally free !
I hate this !

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