Giving up

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Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 12:34 am

Wait till the excuses and agreements with yourself start to kick in.. 'only if people offer me one', 'just x a day', 'only on my birthday' (then add Xmas, Easter, Presidents Day, St Georges Day, national Albanian wombat day etc) or, my favourite, 'I've been so good at giving up, I deserve one').
Took me 3 attempts over 2 years, but I found the ONLY way was to say no whatever the excuses I was giving myself.
Now if only I could drop the 20 kgs I put on since then.. Sad

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 12:40 am

Balls to throwing my remaining cigarettes away. I'm gonna smoke them.
I don't have the heart to screw them up and there's no way I can leave them lying around so I'm not giving up until they're gone.
I went out and got some nicotine chewing gum. Big mistake. It tastes like crap and I reckon I need a cigarette to take the flavour away.

Once I've got rid of what I've got left, I'm going cold turkey and I reckon that's gonna put me in a bad mood. I reckon I'll have to take my frustration out on the lads.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 12:46 am

I found it helpful to tell people (and myself) "I'm a non-smoker" instead of "I'm an ex-smoker". You have to get your head around this important distinction. I also found the really tough times were at the 3-something point.

Hour 3, Day 3, Week 3, Month 3 etc etc so be prepared for that. Even at the 3 year point I found myself thinking "well I've gone for 3 years without a smoke, surely I can risk one now". Wrong! One cig is all it takes........

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 1:04 am

@bombardier

This could be the break I'm looking for. I will quit with you. I have smoked 30 plus years and it disgusts me. I have 3 Marlboros left. When they are gone, that's it. We will need help, and bitching and pissing and moaning at each other will help. It will be hard, but we can do it. No more will I have to listen to my 8 year old son say "Daddy, stop smoking! I don't want you to get heart disease or cancer and die". What kind of asshole would keep smoking after that? ME! Let's do this. PM me and we will start.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 2:12 am

Sorry about my pic. I smoked 2 pks./day (publicist & on phone non stop)

My husband (boyfriend at that time) bought a house and when I saw where the owners had the primary phone jack installed and the yellow ring on the ceiling above - it totally grossed me out - that was what was happening in my body! I thought that I did not want that filth in my first perfect house and I quit that moment.

I sucked a button. No calories, looks like candy and I knew what I was doing and it felt really good!

You should feel really good for what you are doing and go suck a button.

You are strong and you can do it! Even though I still have those weird dreams...... my 92 year old father bought me 2 pks of cancer sticks in my dream 2 nights ago... hmmm maybe he wants me to leave the house to him!

I don't want to tell you good luck because it is not luck that you need. You have decided to quit and you will just quit. It is as simple as that. You are an intelligent, creative, and sensitive person who does not really need any encouragement (though it is nice)to get the job done. This is something that has found its relevant time it your life and it needs to get done.

This is the time to get it done, so just do it.

Love and kisses,
Patty

Baiting Guru Joined: 08 Feb 2005 Posts: 2301

Good luck! Very Happy

I would post a picture of a cancer filled lung about now (to make Leccy get sick), but I'll refrain.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 2:18 am

One thing you will quickly notice after you quit, and something your nearest and dearest probably didn't tell you, is that all smokers STINK!

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 5:19 am

^^^January 4, 2007 was the first day in over thirty years that I did not smoke a cigarette. I made a point of this to my wife as I got into bed. She replied, "And it's the first time in over eighteen years of marraige that you didn't come to bed smelling like an ashtray!" Embarassed

I haven't had a cigarette since that day, although I have had a few cigars. That has to stop soon however. Looks like I have to go back on the Nicorette patches.

Good luck to all of you!

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 5:24 am

Quote:

"I'm not addicted. Ive been smoking for 20 years, and Im not addicted."

One ive heard a few times before.

My wife and I are one of those people that ALL smokers hate. We can smoke one, or a pack, and not even think about them again for months, then do it again and again. We did that for years.

When she got pregnant for the first time, we gave it up completely. Havent had one for two years now.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 5:44 am

I quit 14 or so years had been a pack a day smoker for over 10 years.
My ex wife got pleurisy and she couldn't smoke and I figured it was a good time to do it. I went cold turkey and kept telling myself that if I have one smoke now I will have to start counting all over again.
After a week the nose comes back with a vengeance man the house stunk so
bad I had to spend the whole weekend cleaning the house, curtains walls everything.

Since then the ex has been carted of to the hospital several times, on deaths door as she decided that smoking was more important than breathing.

It's well worth the the effort Very Happy

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 6:26 am

Breadcrum is right - if you really want to stop, STOP NOW. And never ever touch another one again.

Me, I started very young, smoked non-stop for 20 wonderful years and stopped. Didn't touch a single stick for 5 years, saw a guy REALLY enjoying his drag and told myself that I was depriving myself of life's little pleasures. Did it again for another 4 years.

Now I have 4 double cartons of B & H in my drawer but have not touched one for 5 months.

And I DO feel much better now.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 7:52 am

Good luck mate - It took me a while, I kept bumming fags off my mates - a couple of smokes at a party doesnt seem that bad, but I have a temper, and that is exasperated by the withdrawl from even a couple of pufffs.

The sneaky thing is it hit me a few days later, and took a while for me to realise just why I was so terrable to live with.

I started trying to quit a couple of years ago, before the birth of my 1st son - I did it for my children. It's been a few months now - and really I dont even think of it anymore. Once you get to about midday and realise you didn't miss that first ciggy in the morning, you will just know you are on your way.

The benefits are incredible, food tastes better - your clothes dont smell - fitness increases (I can walk all day long without getting puffed) etc.

BUT there are side effects: I put on nearly 10 kilos, and have a lot more money for beer. Laughing

Anyway, unleash your frustration on your stuntman, and anyone else who tries to scam you!

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 8:34 am

Ok.
Last month I decided that I'd had enough. My one pack of Marlborough lights was it. No more.
By the time I came to having about 6 left, I just wanted to throw them in the bin. Get rid of the bain that has ruled my life for many years.
At 10am I was so excited that I finished my last cigarrette, FOR EVER!!!!!!!

By 9pm, I told hubby "If you don't want to get divorced, go and get me some fags!!
I honestly though he'd say no.
He went to the shop and the rest is history.
I've smoked since I was 9years old. (I had a very wicked aunty) and I would honestly love to stop, but I don't seem to be able to. My problem is (and you won't hear too many people admit it) I love smoking.

I'd have a go at stopping with you? Seriously, I will?Because I really want to, I'm sick of it. I'll be honest with you though, as long as you're honest with me?

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 8:48 am

I found this rather helpful when I quit:

http://whyquit.com/joel/ntap.pdf

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 9:14 am

I'm not clicking that if it's photos of crappy lungs and the like.

7 left.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 9:57 am

Good Luck Bomb. What will you do with all the money you'll be saving? Very Happy

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 10:13 am

it wasn't me wrote:

My problem is (and you won't hear too many people admit it) I love smoking.

That is so true - It gave me a chance to take a break from work every hour or so, and was good for stress levels when things turned to custard. Quite a comforter actually.

Aaah screw it I havent had a Camel in years.

Just kidding

I dont really want one

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 10:20 am

Quote:

I love smoking

So do I - the whole of it - the paraphernalia, everything. But I'm still glad I stopped. After a while you wonder what you ever saw in it.

Quote:

I havent had a Camel in years

but that's a whole other story..

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 12:46 pm

I didn't realize how many people smoked. I mean, people smoke around where I am from, but not that much. I only know a handful of people who smoke. I am probably the people that smokers hate. The smell bothers me. I complain if a smoker is standing next to me and blowing that crap in my face. I have told a number of people who smoke next to me to go smoke away from me, preferrably in the street. I have gotten in a number of arguments in restaurants about it. Nearly got my arse kicked once. But smoking is not allowed indoors in my state anymore. Only at bars who don't serve food.

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 1:00 pm

@jojo
The best thing about being an ex smoker is all the smokers know you will lecture them, and yes I cough and splutter every time some inconsiderate asshole poors smoke in my face.

I get the shits when the it's my freedom or whatever to smoke argument comes up. I fell like getting 5 beers in 5 minutes grab the assholes shirt and puke all over them, It's my right to puke right?

Wow sorry just blowing off a little smoke Embarassed

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 1:03 pm

A good enough reason to quit is seeing those pathetic huddles of people gathered in fire escape exits in office buildings in the pissing rain desperately sucking down their fix of toxins.

But let's not forget that nicotine addiction is just as dangerous, pernicious and powerful as many other addictions and giving up is a real challenge. The rewards are worth it of course, but that's easy to say after you've done it. I wish all our Quitters the very best of luck and strength to remain committed to their goal.

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Iv,e been a non-smoker for 2 hours 11 minutes and i,m getting frustrated already. Iv,e got the dying for a fag feeling at the moment.
Like alot of the other guys i love smoking but i also see the waste of money, i,m buying a house in the UK with plans to move back in about 5 years time so the money i save will go into that and my beloved Mini.
Thanks to my new quitting buddies, hang in there guy,s, lets smash the 3 hour point Very Happy

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 3:21 pm

bombardier wrote:

Iv,e got the dying for a fag feeling at the moment.

I think I should put that in my signature!

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 9:45 pm

bombardier wrote:

Thanks to my new quitting buddies, hang in there guy,s, lets smash the 3 hour point Very Happy

Bugger. Have we started? Shocked

Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 10:03 pm

I feel so weak willed compared to everyone else here. Problem I have is I really like smoking so i've got no real incentive to quit (except the cost and that's not incentive enough).