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Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

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Hey Derrick just got this in my spam message...Yeah it will be nice to chat and get to know more about you i think this would enhance our better innovation..donno if you have yahoo instant messenger it will be nice to chat over there.........mine ID is the same as my Email address.

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Hello Ruth, it is nice to see your reply. I have no use or desire for any yahoo junk. Chat is not for relationships. That is a waste of time and nobody really gets to know anything. A 5 minute email can give you more than hours of chat. Are you looking for marriage or just casual dating stuff? I am only looking for a lifelong marriage.

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Thanks for the message..To me I never believe in the internet dating not until it has work out good for a friend of mine, she met her soulmate from the internet dating sites and they are both happily married with a kid, just then I believe it could also work out good for me too but both parties have to be Loyal, Honest, Trustful, Open Minded and be able to hold a constant communication bcos to me COMMUNICATION play crucial role in every relationship thats why i also bring that suggestion of using the yahoo messenger just like they did and i think would bring more serious to every of our thinking to each other...Yes am seeking for a marriage and you?
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Good morning Ruth! I hope all is well and you are enjoying the day there. I am here only seeking a very serious marriage. I have seen too many failed marriages and even been through one myself. My former wife was running around having sex with every man but me. I had to get rid of her.

Honest communication is very important in the development of a relationship. I don't know how you will feel about this but I do have a daughter and 2 grand kids from a previous marriage. I do not recall anything in your profile about children but do not want you to think I would hide such hings from you.

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I am also looking for something serious....What Good or Bad have you heard or experienced about this internet dating?? ANY??

Hello again! I would not call the experiences I have had on this computer anything close to dating. The ones that talk to me are usually trying to con me into joining some stupid site or trying to get me to pay to watch them get naked on a camera thing. I am not about to do either of those things. I am looking for marriage not masturbation. This place has not exactly been kind to me just yet. I hope you are different than those people.

Your experience on here been as bad as mine?

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The only good I've heard was that of my friend who met her soulmate over the internet and the bad I have experience is that of some people who emailed you to subscribe to some porn websites, I also heard some men run scams over the internet.. Is that True???

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My lady, I do not think yo are asking the right person for an answer to your question. Since I am not looking for men I have no idea about that but I guess it could be possible. I don't know what men do here other than myself.

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Its a blunder lol i meant women

Babe, could you please speak with more than just (what appears to be) a texting sentence to me. I know it was terrible what I said to you in my last mail but it was meant to be funny. This is the problem with that chat mess, people do not seem to know how to write a proper mail. I need communication. I hope this is not too much to ask of you.

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yes i understand,,I am looking for a Man who is reliable, honest and reasonably intelligent. I want someone with a good sense of humour; who doesnt take themself too seriously. Ideally someone who has had an experience of a long-term relationship or marriage and are resonably stable. I dont like people who are conservative, rasists or who feel superiour of others. Someone who has travelled (a bit at least) and have experiences of different cultures and values. I am not intersted in man who likes to sit in pubs, drinking excessivly and are obsessed with football. I value independant thinking and interest in issues around politics, philosophy, physcology, art, music, literature (but you dont have to be a super brain). I am not interested in titles or prestige....and prefer someone who is quite free spirited like myself. I want someone who is not conventional who is also looking for a deep friendship.

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Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

Good morning dear! I hope all is well and you are enjoying the day. Thank you so much for your mail and I must say I would like to think I may be the man you seek. I do not have time to sit in a bar but I have been known to have a beer or 2 with friends on my days away from work. Only the occasional beer, not excessive and continuous.

My last relationship was 15 years long and we only parted because she did not want a marriage. I do not dislike her or anything just feel it is time for me to be married and stable. Other than Mr. I have no title of any sort.

I prefer my lady to have opinions of her own not just agree with everything that is said. That leads to a fake and boring relationship not worthy of being in. I do believe in leaving religion and politics out of any relationship. They are terrible topics and can divide a household rather than unite it.

I still have at least one brain cell left, though I will leave it to you to decide if it is a good or bad one. I may have to go buy a new one if this one stops working.

Enjoy your day
Happy new year

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Hello Derrick,
How Are you doing today, well I Really appreciate that,i like you have told me about you ,however I like my job that I do...., i am currently working a new project Out side the Country and I have been out here in West Africa for about two weeks and i will be coming to the UK in the next three weeks After my project . I'm honest, loyal, caring, loving person. I'm a very easy going person, doesn't take much to please me, I prefer the simple things in like. Having fun with someone I care about,friends. When I'm in a relationship I like to do small things for that person, notes in hidden places, buying silly cards, or small gifts, doing things that would put a smile on their face, make their day better. I've always want to take good care of my love and have a good relationship with him and let him know that i care for him so much and love him with all my heart. I don't make much friends but just a few close ones, and value that friendship completely.
I love being outside in the summer and much into the boating, swimming thing. i love swimming and also i like to go to the beach so much go in and get wet that's about it. I like to travel and see different things. I like trying new things but not much into the thrilling things(like roller coasters, budgie jumping, etc). I like most all music, don't care much for rap. Country, classic rock jazz are my favorites. Not much into winter sports, but I will snowmobile once in awhile. Walks in the snow from home or would love in stay in a cabin in the woods in the winter!! In the winter I work, watch TV, movies, work on different projects. I like to do music, sew and print and frame my own pictures. Also like to read. I'm looking for someone that I can go camping with,take drives and walks, just do lots of stuff together or just watch TV/movie or just chat. It would be great if he has the love of the mountains ,Tried of being the third wheel, or doing things alone. Would like friend or partner if it should turn out that way to share life's ups and downs with.If you like what you have read and would like to chat, send me a email. please would like if you can tell me more about your job and some more things about you..Hope to read from you again and please send me some of you recent pictures Derrick I Look forward to read from you soon...

Hello my lady! I think there may be a misunderstanding here. I am in the US, not the UK. I do not mind that you are from there but I need you to know I am not. I just saw a beautiful lady and may have kind of lost my head a bit not considering you may have a problem with our distance. I am sorry for that and hope you are not upset with me.

A person does not need a lot of friends in life. You would come to see that most of them are fake anyway. It is the few that you really hold dear that matter.

In a relationship I like for my lover to never be left in doubt as to how I feel about her. Little gifts are kind of nice every now and then but I like those romantic touches, kisses on the neck and ears, sweet words whispered in your ear and things much beyond where our conversation should be at this early point.

R, everyone needs friends and if that is where we end up then so be it. I am not here for that. I want a wife! I want a family! I am not here to play.

I think I need to show you some pictures of my work so you may be able to understand me when I tell you more.

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I thought you are

Oh dont get me twisted Derrick more so,you convinced me i thought you are the one from the UK,US is where i am Originally from too Rowland LA there Calif donno about you...Here is more about myself
I am Ruth,I am 40yrs,I am 5.8",I am an orphan, was pick from the trash can on the street of Rowland LA,Calif, and I was took to South Totteham England by a barren woman that I call mom ,i now leave there in the US.... I lived most of my life there but I had bitter experience with friends because they weren't honest with me, so I decided not to have a friend till I met terry and I was happy I met him we were both happy for years until the cold hands of death took him away from me when delivering my baby and 2yrs later the woman who took care of me died, and everything she left for me was collected by her family and even some of my thing, so that has left me sober I am just trying to pick up every bit of my life now,I am single Mom, my lovely partner died of heart surgery since then it has been a sour to my mind, I have gotten no friend no foe since he died, I have been on my own.I have a son ,he's is 5 year of age name Landon,he's my everything since i lost his Daddy . I am widowed.I have been lonely for some years now.I enjoy exercising daily which either involves weight training or aerobics. I think it is important to exercise and eating very healthy meals. I love to go out dancing, to nice romantic dinners and shopping at large malls like the Mall of America. I enjoy romantic music and slow dancing as well an fast dancing. I prefer romantic, attractive, affectionate man. I believe that romance is a very important part of the relationship. I enjoy man who are confident with themselves and are not afraid to express themselves in a diplomatic way. I think it is very important that two people want the same thing in a relationship. I believe that this should be discussed and communicated clearly when two people first meet. I do not believe in wasting my time or the other persons time because life is too short. I believe each person should be allowed to be who they are and to be free to give their best for each others mutual benefit. I do not like controlling man who do not communicate well and have agendas or excessive previous baggage. I like man who I can have a good conversation with and we can communicate in a mutually beneficial way. I like men who are interested in exercise and physical fitness. I like man who read to improve themselves and find value in self help books. I also like man who are either spiritual but not necessary religious. I also enjoy attending a good church that leaves you feeling better about yourself when you leave. Who I'd like to meet: The type of person I am interested in is a man who can laugh, be playful and light hearted, one who is motivated and ambitious, intelligent, and self confident. I enjoy meaningful conversation in addition to plain old good fun. I'm basically a very positive person who also loves humor and laughter and would like someone with an adventurous spirit and a positive attitude who can see the funny side of life, someone who is open and willing to learn new things. I like to share things I learn and am open to learning new things as well. I have a passion for music and a curiosity for life. To find a man who loves to dance would be a miracle, but not impossible I believe, even if rare, but definitely a bonus, but not a requirement! lol I also love a gentleman who knows how to treat a woman like a baby and a baby like a woman. Romance and passion are important as well. Like everyone I talk to I want the whole nonchalant, including chemistry. I have learned though that chemistry is not everything and not the only component for building a strong relationship. A picture is worth a thousand words yet can still tell you nothing. Lastly beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I would say I have more on the inside than the outside. LOL No one is perfect including myself but I suppose if you don't put it out there and risk, you'll never know. However I am realistic and I am by far
not..and less i forget,it will be nice to chat better there on yahoo instant messenger i think this would enhance our better innovation like its obvious that COMMUNICATION play crucial role in every relationship.if you have it you can add me up there am online there waiting you to join me...dont forget,my Email remains my ID for it too.
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Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

Good morning R! I hope you and Landon are well and enjoying the day. I am sorry to read of your loss and I can imagine it is very tough to raise your son alone. I raised my daughter after her mother and I divorced. Her mom was getting into one screwed situation after the other and I was sick of her dragging my girl through that. My daughter is now grown and married with 2 kids of her own.

I am not much of a disco dancer but I do love to slow dance! I don't even care where I am at if a good song comes on I may just take a girl in my arms and dance with her.

You may think me a little strange but I kind of have to have 2 different personalities. At work I have to be very strict and sometimes loud and mean but I leave all of that at work when I get the chance to go home. When I am home I am a big pushover with the kids. My grand daughter can always get me in trouble for letting her have a candy bar or an ice cream before she has eaten. She keeps her papa in trouble most of the time.

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Hi Derrick,

Thanks for the mail, Landon is fine with me,I must say i honored to get your response i am new to this online stuff i told you and i am just wondering if it gonna work for me though i have read so many successful story before joining site.. I would love to know more you Derrick and want us to move from here and see how thing would work for us,I Can see from your mails that we have so much in common.........well i start here.... I am the only child of my parents, they are late now, they Died on auto crash on there way back from Mexico On Vacation,it was really a sad moment for me but happy they were both old enough... I don't have any Man in my life for now cos am Widower 4yrs ...Well Smoking isn't a Problem to me, I can cope with you all i seek for in a relationship is trust and open minded relationship.... I want to grow old with the right Man who is ready to put more effort in a relationship.. I want to know all about you sweetie

I am an IT Engineer (Fleet Maintenance Software and hardware)Automobile sensitive tracker system installing tracker on a truck. have a healthy lifestyle, physically active i have also been independent, successful, amorous and seeking companionship,caring Soul mate. I have many interests including sporting events baseball, hockey primarily football reading and writing,swimming .I'm a Christian protestant. I am very open to adventure and I'm willing to try new things. I'm also searching for someone to teach me how to new thing! I am in search for someone loving and caring honest, adventurous, beautiful,loving and honest woman emotionally and physically active and healthy, honest and lovable,Open minded lady, A woman willing to put some effort into a great and serious relationship. , If you are , please don't hesitate to drop me a note so we can correspond ok..

Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

Hello again Ruthy. I am very confused by your mail. I do not smoke and you seem to be looking for a woman? What in the world is that about? I have nothing against gay or bi people but it seems you went from one thing to another in that mail. Please tell me why you sent me that and what it is all about? It makes no sense to me.

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Lol its a blunder not woman hahaha its sounds funny anyway and mind you an not a lesbian Landon was the cuz he was disturbing am so sorry Derrick..was just rushing when composing it...so how is the day by you there and hope you are having a great day..Why dont you lets chat on instant messenger now am online there now

Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

Ruth I am never bothered by your lifestyle choices. You can be bi if you want to. I can understand it with women much more than I do with men. Please do not feel as though your replies have to be rushed. That is why I do not chat. It is a horrible time waster where people are too lazy to type a real mail. I have no desire to waste hours learning nothing. I do not have, nor do I want that trash anyway.

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Lets chat if permitted

Ruth, I do not care anything about chat so please stop asking me to. I want to know you, not waste hours of time and keyboard ink in that chat trash. I am only going to communicate by email where we have to actually have to have a conversation. If this is not acceptable to you please let me know.

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How do you mean?..was just surprise the way you left without answering my last question and i had sound unexpected to your status i should be highly regretted

I am sorry if that appeared rude to you. It was not meant to be that way. I do not care to chat, now or ever. It is a waste. I want to get to know the real you, not that one sentence at a time person. That is not something I will ever use.

If you would like to know me, please continue to do so with email. This is all I will use. I have my business stuff on here also so I have to be available if something is happening. Please don't just think I was trying to be mean.

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well I Really appreciate that,i like you have told me about you ,however I like my job that I do...., i am currently working a new project Out side the Country and I have been out here for about two weeks and i will be coming back in the next three weeks..and if i may ask,what do you do for a living?

Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

Ruth, it is fine to misunderstand. Given the nature of seeing text on a screen kind of makes that happen as we can never really know the intent or the emotion behind the words. It is important that we try to understand this stuff properly rather than just getting upset when things look out of sorts.

Since my occupational title may seem strange I will send some pictures to you as well. I am what is known as a drilling consultant. I am hired by companies to oversee every bit of the drilling process of oil and gas wells.

I will accept no less than my life mate! I am not seeking perfection, I want cooperation and understanding. I want my friend, my lover, my wife, and if life should bless us, the mother of our children. I am very simple!

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I am very happy that i got this special email from you again and i am really looking forward to a Man to grow old with for the rest of my life with and cherish all my life.My past experience have been such a good example to me about life ...It Was Really a hard time for me when i lost my Husband 4yrs ago , i am so glad i am happy again talking to some one and getting to know you better, I pray and wish this will work out for real,.I am ready to find that Man and someone i will spend the rest of my life with,someone that will never put me through hard times and heartbreak.A faithful and honest soulmate,a man that i can trust my whole life with and a companion.Someone i can call my best friend and who will always be there for me in good and bad times..I can understand if you are always busy at work but at least we should be able to create a little time for us to be able to have a wonderful chat.I can always email you if you don't mind then we get to know each other more better ok.......

Do you live in a House or Apt??I believe as time goes on Angel we can get to see this working out and putting in all our best to make it successful.I believe in making this true and been productive.I will be happy to know how you feel alright,you are a Man in a million and i know you are the type that will always make a good home and give the best to the family.What are your likes and dislikes..??I like the beach and putting smiles on peoples face,i like playing bowling and tennis,i dislike liars and cheats.Oh whats your favourite food to cook..?I will be willing to have a wonderful chat with you lright so if that can be givem let me know if we can get to talk more better on Yahoo ok.I will be looking forward to hear back from you & remain cool

Good morning R! It is nice to read your mail again and to know that you are happy again. I am here to find one special lady for marriage and family together. I do not intend to just have a casual romance. It is just my opinion but I think great marriages have to begin with friendship. If the 2 cannot be friends they certainly will not be good together as a couple.

I own my own home and also lease a trailer that I keep here on the job site. My home is in the country about 6-7 miles from the lake. I dislike liars, users, abusers, and lazy people. I like to spend my time with family and friends when I have time away from work.

Being out here with just me, I look to cook things that will last for a few days. That makes my kitchen area pretty easy to keep clean. I make a lot of spaghetti, chili, beans, stews, roasts. briskets and things like this. Every now and then I will make something quick for just one serving but that is kind of rare.

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Yes Morning to you Dear,hope you had a sounds sleep..I think for a relationship to work there needs to be very similar ideals and interests. There needs to be a strong physical and intimate attraction. I'm not exactly sure of what that special someone will be like. That is why I have to keep an open mind, not set up limitations as to what that person will be like. he has to understand that there are some things I like to do and vice versa. !! I want him and myself to be totally content with each other. I think that sums it up.I look for God in a Man,am looking for a Soulmate, Someone who is caring, Loving, Kind, Intelligent, Honest, Affectionate, Passionate, Trustful, Loyal, Sophisticated, God fearing, Good sense of Humor, Supportive, Responsible, Respectful, Someone who will always be there for me, Someone I can call mine, Someone I can always be proud of and be proud of me. Someone I can laugh and cry with, Someone I can grow old with, I'll like to be treated EQUAL...Definitely want someone at my side to be equal and sharing with me. I believe in TIC, if you have Trust, Integrity, and Commitment, there will be true love, and you will be blessed....What is your favorite color?,What is your favorite meal?,What is your favorite restaurant?,What is your taste in clothing, are you a business casual person?,hat is your favorite sport? lastly,What is your favorite type of kiss? do i just mention kiss lol

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Let me have your cell number so i can call to hear your voice

Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

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Its Morning here baby,how are you doing today? i hope you has a great day out there..it was a busy day for me and my client here yesterday thats why have not been to reply you back quick as expected but am glad i made it still......well and good i understand your stand to the Faith and i dont think that will can be a problem to me anyway will tell you more on that when we come to meet in person.
Pink is my favorite color i love the color...

My favorite meal::::::I love spaghetti with meat sauce,Beef Burger,Pizza,Ice cream.tacos and burritos,i sometimes go to restaurants & out of them my favorite's are;Carrabba’s Italian! and Outback....My taste in cloth like am a business casual person I dress casual for work mostly for field trip and when at home I wear Short and armless, I am usually in jeans and t-shirt.. I wear Nighty to bed.. My favorite sport to watch is Basketball and for the kiss French Kiss, The long sensual one that Builds to feverish passion is triggered me most hahaha its just lovely .....However,my other question's goes thus;What is your favorite sexual position?What is your idea of a romantic evening?what type of movie you like?How long has it been since your last relationship and what really cause your separation?When you are together with someone, how often do you like to make Love?Are you a morning person? Or an evening person?What pet peeves do you have?Do you live close to the beach?....Hope to read back and have a lovely day!

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Thank you so much for the mail again and for telling me more about your likeness..Yes am pretty good with Landon..For my favorite sexual position is Spread eagle, and facing Each other but have missed it for years now.....My idea of a romantic evening::::;My idea of a romantic evening is both cooking together in the kitchen, sharing the fun and the work, laughing, talking, and then settling down together to eat in quiet, maybe some candles, soft music, take a nice walk along the beach holding hands and listening to the ocean crash while the moon lights up the sky... I love togetherness, the more together, the more I fall in love....the type of movie you like:::Comedy,Action ,Drama ,Romantic, Science Fiction,Classic Hollywood, Crime Drama, Historical Drama , Superhero Foreign , Art House Animation Documentary / Non-fiction..How long has it been since your last relationship and what really cause your separation??I am single Mom, my lovely partner died of heart surgery since then it has been a sour to my mind, I have gotten no friend no foe since he died, I have been on my own giving my son a well and good brought up also to see to a stage that he would be able to handle things as expected....
I like to make love as often as I can. I am a very Loving, Passionate and Affectionate person. When my Late and I were together I craved him and I hope to feel that need to be with and ultimately close to the person I wish to fall in love with, and as often as possible and i cant wait to have them experienced again....Let me call myself a morning and evening person cuz am both, it depends on the mood and circumstances, when I am anticipating an event, I am excited, and will act accordingly. I have been known to get so excited about things that will happen the next day that I don’t sleep the night before, and im the first one out of bed. And if something is happening…like talking to you at night, I will stay up and be active.while for my peeve,I have a nail-biting pet peeve, I can’t Stand to hear someone biting their nails. And I also can’t stand laziness, although I am at times lazy myself. I like to have people around me that will motivate me, I am a motivator, but also can be easily motivated…just withhold from me and that’s motivation enough!..I love going to the beaches that what has really made me ask if you live close to any beach there..My other questions goes thus;Do you like to shop?,Do you like to pick clothes or styles for your woman?,Are you picky about how your woman behaves in public? Do you prefer a quiet demeanor or someone who is outgoing and friendly?,Are you physically loving when you are with a woman? Hold hands, Hugs, In private and in Public?,Do you respect the woman you are with? Do you ever downgrade or make fun of her?,Do you like children? Other people’s children? Do you tend to distance yourself from them? Or play with them?,How many close friends do you have? How would your friends describe you and Do you have any nicknames???,If you are in a relationship, and live together, how do you view the bills? Are they separated or combined?

Baiting Guru Joined: 27 Mar 2011 Posts: 21158

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Sorry to have reply late was here at work like am hasten up my contract so i can be home to you as soon as possible ,,,I love to Shop for clothes for a man, any man, it doesn’t matter, I’ve been known to shop for Late husband..I appreciate a man that is confident and not particularly shy in public that is willing to speak up and say what’s on his mind, although not being rude, or discourteous, also friendly to strangers, and not embarrassed if I speak to other people that we may or may not know. I like to feel protected and yet free to be my myself, which is quite friendly.I love to hold hands, I think it shows Unity and it also is a comfort, which the person you are holding hands with is there for you, emotionally and physically. In private…I love love to fool around, goof off, and carry on, a shaving cream fight is fun as all get out, and I love laughing, giggling..Yes I would like to be able to respect the man I end up with, I like for a man to be strong and yet, able to express his softer side. I do tend to poke fun at times, (it’s a bad habit) but when I think something will make people laugh, I usually tell all...I love kids, when a toddler giggles, I giggle, I can’t help it, to hear that from a baby or small child is a wonderful thing. I love to jump in and play with the kids, but I do realize there’s a time and place for everything. So it depends on the situation. I have maybe 2, I'm proud that my friends are good people and that I rarely associate myself with people of bad character. My friends would describe me as Outgoing, funny, sarcastic, loyal, easy to get along with, responsible, loving, and caring. My Late usually call me Rutty.. I would like to think that the bills in part would be combined, I always did the accounting in the relationship…always maintained our checking, savings and so forth...Do you like to grocery shop? Cook?,How often do you eat out when you are home?,Do you drink alcohol? Have you ever been drunk?,have you ever been in trouble with the law? If so, what for?,Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket?,How many women have you been with sexually?,Do you tend to drive fast? Or obey the speed limit?,Do you have a favorite pen that you write with?
R
Kisses and hugs