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Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

I am glad U let me go thru & delete them.

I know I render the thread useless.

He would have recognized his mails. Of course he would have.

I am not sure what U mean by racist rhetoric. I think I know to what U R referring...

I do not feel I am using him as a platform for my own religious views.

Topics like racism, religion, politics are like fire. I believe only to be discussed under controlled circumstances. And online I think it becomes even more tricky.

If he recognized his mails, he knows where to find me bcos he mails to me each month. It is a post box. But still.

I am concerned about safety.
But now at least I know what a SCAM is. It involves money.

Everything else may not be good, may not be healthy, may be confusing, etc. but does not fall under the definition of SCAM.

Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 2:15 am

http://arrivalworldmag.com/party7.htm

Let's not turn this into a political conversation! That link is to show you what I'm talking about. I'd be a lot more concerned about that, than being viewed as a possible scammer. The man is a racist pig.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

Yes. I know. Not nice. And no, I certainly do not agree with the views expressed. Definitely not nice. If the situation were reversed how would he feel. I know.

Very narrowminded. Extremely. I know.

I do not write like that. It is biased. I understand.

We are all one family, the Human Family.

Baiting Guru Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 12237

Agnes Finke wrote:

We are all one family, the Human Family.

Amen!

Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 2:43 am

I've deleted the off topic comments.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

I will be letting him know about the general reaction to that piece of ....about I will not of course tell him WHERE I got this information. But all comments have been noted.

And..after reading that article again..it makes me feel sick.

Narrow minded. Confused. and definitely odd.

If I am confused in any sort of relationship, most times it because the other person is a bit 'off' and I cannot quite figure out what it is. I then spend lots of time trying to figure it all out.

This person ...not the sort I would want to marry. LOL or have children with LOL or have in any way influencing any child I have in my care.

I work with a very nice Chinese lady. But different cultures have different ways.

His article was ignorant. And offensive. And very rude.

I certainly hope that nobody believes that I would write like that.

If that is what this is...believe me...NO. How ignorant.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

Well Everyone:

I guess..I will end for tonight anyway.

At least now..I dont need to worry that this dude will find me..and ...

I think some of U feel I support his views which is why I help out there.

NO. NO. NO.

Here comes another PM. So I will check it.

Baiting Guru Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 12237

Good night Agnes, I find your story fascinating.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

Good Heavens.

So do I actually.

But please...I do not condone those views expressed.

But I can see now why it could be seen that way.

NO.

Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 3:03 am

I don't think anybody thinks your views are the same as his. It was merely pointed out to show the racist pig that he is.

Baiting Guru Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 12237

Rest easy. Perhaps we can continue this conversation in the morning.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

I certainly am not going to DEFEND him. Heavens no.

I prefer to call him confused.

But yes...it is sickening actually. And frightening too.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

Guys:

I have learned what constitutes a SCAM.

I have noted the comments about the publication. And I am glad U do not think that those are MY views. I am very glad.

I am glad U let me do my deletions. I can rest easy tonight.

And I am also glad that U expressed your opinions so freely. That is good. I dont have to guess what U mean and perhaps come to the wrong conclusion. Or get confused.

I hope U all have a good night.

For me..I need to let go and move on.

I want to come back and add my two cents though. It sounds like fun.

I definitely will never be so trusting again. So gullible. So easily manipulated. Especially not so trusting.

It takes time to know somebody.

IF ANYTHING COMES TOO EASILY..CHECK AGAIN. IT MIGHT NOT BE SO GOOD.

Well. My goodness.

But, yes. I agree with your views there.

So much anger expressed by this person. Hostility.

It tells me a lot.

HAVE A GOOD NIGHT EVERYONE.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

U R going to let me go to sleep now...righ

Baiting Guru Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 12237

Agnes Finke wrote:

IF ANYTHING COMES TOO EASILY..CHECK AGAIN. IT MIGHT NOT BE SO GOOD.

Words to live by.

Good night Agnes.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

U Guys. It is LATE.

While we are chatting. The internet can be a very dangerous, deceptive tool. One cannot be certain of anything online.

And one never really knows the true motive of the person on the other end, either.

And their history.

I have a history of abuse in my background, actually. Since childhood. And I always felt that it was I that had the problem. That there was something wrong. My parents were wonky. And so..I grew up knowing things were not right. But could not figure out what they were. And as children do..I think esp. Girls bcos of the way we are socialized..I blamed myself. For all of it.

I took this of course into adulthood. I am a prime target for manipulations and also just odd sorts of people. They find me. But I also find them.

They are often too friendly. Too accommodating. Then after I am suckered in..nonsense starts. I blame myself, sometimes for years. After a time it becomes so apparent, I was not the one with the problem.

I always want to make things OKAY.

Well..it has been interesting. I need to get out much, much sooner of anything that is too wierd. But wierd people seem normal to me, for a time. Then I believe it is me with the problem. Trouble starts. It takes about 2 years to get out of it all.

So..I am a target.

This might be good information for you also. Some people are not so vulnerable. Others confrontational. I think..whats wrong with me. What did I do.

I waste a lot of time.

Hellish Taskmaster Joined: 31 Dec 2008 Posts: 537

^ I'm sorry about your past. It isn't your "fault" if you have been scammed or manipulated, it's the lad's.

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

I cannot quite grasp that, actually.

I have my friends tell me that over & over again.

I think I did something wrong. If only I had...something...then all would be okay.

He is not a nice person. Obviously.

He does not care about me. Obviously. Never did. Obviously.

How stupid of me.

But at home, late at night, defenses are down.

I have read about widowers being tricked like this. They get IM's from a 'nice lady' who says, 'Hi how are you, I have missed you, I am getting ready to do to bed...' and then 'Call me as soon as you wake up'

This sort of fake intimacy happens very quickly. And then....if it is a scammer, they ask for money.

A caring person, a true and sincere person, someone I would consider a real man, worthy of me or really any lady, would NOT participate in this sort of nonsense. And not write articles like that. I had seen it once before, it shocked me then. But seeing it again..shocking.

If I were involved with someone, and I knew he participated in this sort of nonsense at his age..no, I would not wish to continue the association with such a manipulative person.

Intellectually, I know all of the above.

I am easily manipulated into thinking there is something wrong with me. I was a normal child growing up with 2 abnormal parents. One was addicted to prescription drugs in a big way. Kept taking pills and lying down on the floor and telling me, age 10, 'dont call 911 or tell daddy'.

Imagine! Age 10. If something had happened!!! The confusion I felt. Do I do what my mother tells me? I wanted to run..to tell someone. But my mother told me not to.

Then my Dad, who claimed he heard voices in his head, would say, 'Why didnt you tell someone'?

She threatened to poison my baby sisters milk. Threatened to poison our food.

All of this contributed to my being sucked in to this nonsense with this LAD and had I actually met him..like he was screaming into the phone...who knows what he had in mind.

No. a real man does not do that.

This will take now 2 years to get completely over.

Baiting Guru Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 12237

Get some rest Agnes.

Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 12:08 pm

Er....

Have we missed something?

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

Nope!

U guyz R pretty good.

But ...

Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 1:44 pm

I hope you can come over your recent experiences at least, give it some time Sad

Not quite a Newb Joined: 29 May 2009 Posts: 59

STATUS IN THE LAND.....

What a hate filled document...that really blows my mind.

Takes all kinds....

I have overcome. I was confused. Why..I dont know

Master of Master Baiters Joined: 26 Aug 2006 Posts: 577

Anyone else's eyes starting to bleed?

ed: annoyance

Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 2:08 pm

Radar moving swiftly from Beep,Beep,Beep to WHOOP,WHOOP,WHOOP.