What to do on a 1st date?

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Hello I'm New here! Joined: 18 Mar 2008 Posts: 7

I have no scammers biting at the moment, so i might as well spend time on the forums and get an international point of view on this matter Very Happy

So, i met this nice girl at a bar last saturday. The problem is that i was quite wasted, and she wasn't Embarassed

I must be pretty charming when i'm drunk, since she agreed to go on a date next saturday. Things i remember about her is that she's 26 yrs old and a university student. Can't be quite sure of other things she said... what a nice start for a relationship hehe. I was thinking of taking her to a bar or out to eat just to be on the safe side. But my first dates usually turn out to be awkard and you don't know what to talk about...

Any interesting suggestions for a 1st date?

Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:38 pm

Get hammered again, it seemed to work last time. Wink

BTW, welcome to the eater.

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This is where i become an expert on something Razz

I have been expecting to meet one lass and when she turns up it's someone completely different who i don't even remember.

Best thing here is do something totally random, if you were pissed last time she won't expect much from you this time but you must have done something if she actually wants to see you again, try fishing, roller skating or camping, might not work but still pretty random Wink

Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:55 pm

Depends whether or not you want a 2nd date, which you may not be able to decide until it's too late.

Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:57 pm

Liima wrote:

I have no scammers biting at the moment

This is a lie. We have hundreds of surplus scammers here, and your third post is to say you can't find any? Bullshit man. Get baiting. This is a scambaiting site.

In the very remote chance that a Lagos lad is not working on a Wednesday night, then fine, I'll bite.

Go for a beer or two before hand, arrange for her to meet you in a bar (Hey presto no nerves) for a quick drink, then go for dinner somewhere nice nearby. Take her for Japanese. Preferably a conveyor belt place. (Known as a Kaiten Sushi). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conveyor_belt_sushi
It's informal. You eat little bits, giving you a chance to chat when you want to, and to eat when there is no conversation. Do some research on what to eat at a Kaiten bar, you may impress her. If you want some tips, PM me.

Again, Kleindoofy is in a good mood, someone has to be the duty grumpy git. Wink

Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:59 pm

Kind of agree with callum and bombardier. If you were 'wasted', you're vision or hearing (or both) at the time might have been misleading you Wink

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 12:54 am

Forget the bar. Never do the same thing twice. Sushi go round is cool and a good cross between intimate and a floor show but it only works if there is one in your part of the world. Research tide tables and see if there's a low tide on Saturday. Go to a tide pool. If its at night, go with flashlights. Take blankets and coffee in thermos. Get with KD and borrow his bicycle. If she does not have one rent. Roller or ice skate. Go to a planetarium. Borrow or buy a Skyscout, get a y adapter and two sets of headphones. Have fun.

Hello I'm New here! Joined: 31 Jan 2008 Posts: 3

justjay wrote:

Kind of agree with callum and bombardier. If you were 'wasted', you're vision or hearing (or both) at the time might have been misleading you Wink

I would certainly be wary of this possibility. If all is well in that department and if you can't recall what you learned about her, time to find something to do for a refresher course but SOBER this time Razz

. Personally, I'm a little of a slow goer, nothing cool for the first time like Connie suggested (grabs notepad), usually a night, or perhaps an afternoon, out to eat or something.

Hello I'm New here! Joined: 18 Mar 2008 Posts: 7

Hey thanks for the tips! I really liked that kaiten sushi idea. There used to be one in this part of the world. I have to check if it still exists. I also grabbed a notepad for those Connies ideas Very Happy

thanks!

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 2:20 am

Liima wrote:

... Any interesting suggestions for a 1st date?

Bring her something sweet:

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 2:39 am

Ah, Mr Subtle is back in town Laughing

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 3:13 am

Just don't be like the guy who showed up at my door totally wasted and totally naked. He didn't get a 1st or 2nd date. He got a ride in a nice black and white car. Rolling Eyes

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 6:20 am

The weather in your area may not be suitable for something like my first date with my current boyfriend, but I really liked it. We went to the zoo which I love. It avoided the pressure of the only focus being on each other such as at a nice dinner. It also gave us something easy to talk about (which animals you like the best, etc.) and time to be quiet without it feeling awkward. It also allowed me to see how he interacted with other people (was he polite and respectful, etc.) which I believe is a great measure of the real person. We went to a very causal dinner afterwards followed by a visit to a music store to check out CDs. Finally, we finished off the night getting some ice cream (which was my idea, thus I paid). It was a wonderful first date. BTW, it was 7 months ago and we are still together. Very Happy

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 6:30 am

^^ That really sounds nice.
But anyway, my time for dating is over.

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 7:19 am

*wonders why someone would go to a place where everyone sits behinds a computer all day and lies to people for dating advice*

In any case, staying on topic, remember, "Don't fix it if it ain't broke!". If she liked you when she first met you, stay that way. Teh alcohol may play a factor...

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 8:44 am

1.Tell her you'll meet her outside the Western union office.
2. Hide across the road and take sly pictures.
3. Call the police and get her arrested for soliciting.
4 .Apologise profusely, saying you were in a car crash and try for a second date.
5. go to 1

You are baiting this girl, right ?

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 9:25 am

Go for a nice meal. Make sure you pay.

Don't take her to the cinema as this leaves little scope for conversation and getting to know her better, although this rule does not apply if she is minging and you haven't got your beer goggles on. Very Happy

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 2:52 pm

Ex. wrote:

*wonders why someone would go to a place where everyone sits behinds a computer all day and lies to people for dating advice*

Yeah, right. Take her back to your apartment, give her a beer, teach her to seed guestbooks while you surf porn and eat Cheetos in your underware. If she goes for it then, she'll go for it later. Problem is there will be no later.

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 3:12 pm

1) Make a reservation at a sleezy motel.
2) Meet her at a bar
3) Get hammered
4) Take her to a strip club with amateur night and get her to dance.
5) Take her to the motel

*Remember to give her money for the cab fare home*

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 3:17 pm

^^ How romantic.... Rolling Eyes

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 3:22 pm

I would recommend NOT taking her to some high dollar place. I puke when I hear guys take girls to Mortons or Smith and Wollensky on date one. Impressive? Maybe. However, you have no where to go from there. Take her some place simple. Something fun. Not too expensive. But not too cheap. You don't want her to think you are cheap. But worse than that, she could think you are rich if you take her somewhere too nice. And guys have to be up front and let the women know, we are broke and we have no money.

Be sure to dress well. No tennis shoes. And no jeans. Wear a collared shirt too.

EDIT: Or do what Harry recommends.

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 4:42 pm

I love the advice from all of the above baiters that are much more powerful than me but I want to throw my hat into the ring. I have almost always used the local climbing gym as a 1st date and it lets me decide if there will be a 2nd. I like women who are willing to try and hang from 40ft in the air on a 12mm rope. It excites me, besides I am on belay and I get a chance to look at their butt why I am down there Twisted Evil

Sorry that was my evil side poking through, lol
Seriously, a workout with each other is a great first date. KD, I dont mean that kinda workout. Wink

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 5:00 pm

Harry Bawls wrote:

1) Make a reservation at a sleezy motel.
2) Meet her at a bar
3) Get hammered
4) Take her to a strip club with amateur night and get her to dance.
5) Take her to the motel

*Remember to give her money for the cab fare home*

Why do I get the feeling that you would never get a date with PRS?

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 5:05 pm

^^^ What makes you think that wasn't my first date with PRS?

Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 5:09 pm

Knowing Harry.... I wouldn't put it past him

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